Dealing with Homesickness

Although many people will try to tell you they don’t miss home, or that they were so busy with new things they didn’t even think about it, it’s very likely that it’s not true.

It’s completely normal to feel homesick at any stage of university life, whether you’ve moved across the country or just a few miles away. Here are a few tips to help overcome it.

1- Talk about it.

It’s very likely, especially in the first few weeks of a new term that you won’t be the only one missing home. Talking to your flatmates or coursemates about home can help you to remember the good things about home, but also help you remember why you’ve moved away and all the good things that will bring.

2- Home comforts.

No matter how old you are, there is absolutely nothing wrong with bringing things that remind you of home, even if that is a cuddly toy! Other items that work include blankets, posters, and fairy lights. Anything that makes your room feel like your space, rather than just an empty room.

3- Photos

On the subject of home comforts, I advise you to buy yourself a photo album or two and print out some of your favourite photos and memories from home. Although now a days we mostly store our photos on our phones, there’s something a little bit more special about a physical copy, and looking through them can really help if you’re having a hard time.

4- Call home.

Don’t be ashamed to excuse yourself from social areas in your flat to make a phone call to the family. It helps you to stay in touch with news from home, and to connect with the people who up until now, you’ve most likely been living with all your life. Using apps such as FaceTime and Skype can enhance this as you get to see faces and places, rather than just voices.

5. Make new friends.

Although you may at times feel like you’re betraying life long friendships by making new friends while you’re away, you’re not. Your home friends would want you to be making new friends and having new experiences, and although at times this may be hard to see, it’s important to remember you can always stay in touch with them in different ways, even if you’re not physically present. 

Keeping in touch at uni

I’ve got to be honest, I’m surprised how well I have kept in touch with my friends at home over the last three years. My friendship group has not only retained most of it’s members, its expanded as we have introduced each other to our uni friends/boyfriends/girlfriends etc. It’s really not all that difficult to keep your friends and family up to date with your new life, although it may seem really daunting at first! To help with this, I’ve compiled a few tips to help you get your head around juggling home and uni friendships.

Skype or Facetime

I never used facetime or Skype all that much before uni. I eventually discovered, however, that they are probably the best ways to communicated with your friends and family when you’re not around them very often. I recommend, at least in the first term of uni, you arrange specific times every week/couple of weeks to facetime or skype your friends and family. This means that you always know when you’re going to ‘see’ them and it gives you something to look forward to if you’ve had a long day. If you’re parents are technophobes like mine, maybe take some time to teach them how to use skype before you go off to uni. This could be a fun (or frustrating) bonding activity that you hopefully won’t regret!

Group Chats

I swear by group chats, it’s how I sort out my social life and keep up to date with everything going on with all my different friendship groups. Maybe sort out different group chats for different friends (school, dance class, uni etc) so you can figure out what they are all up to and arrange meet ups when you’re all in the same area. I find this is a great way to let all your friends know any big news and just generally chat with them. Group chats are the best.

Visits

Nothing will stop you friend visiting home, or even inviting your friends and family to come and stay with you one weekend. It’s so nice to have a break from everything and return home, though this could be quite costly for some people who live far away. I highly recommend that you get a rail card before you start uni, this will save you so much more money than you spend on it. I also love having my friends from home come and visit Ormskirk, some of my friends have even been adopted as honorary parts of our uni friendship group because they have visited so often. It’s so lovely to see your old and new friends getting along together.

Enjoy yourself

You do need to keep in mind that you don’t have to constantly update the people at home, they’ll always be there. Try and take some time to spend with the people at uni and build upon those friendships too. Your friends and family will understand how busy uni is and shouldn’t expect you to have lengthy phone calls with them every night, you needn’t worry about keeping them up to date every day. So long as you don’t neglect them for months on end, your friendships will stay strong.

Until next time! 🙂

Marie Curie

Hey guys

I’m about to talk about something that means a lot to me
It’s the Marie Curie Foundation
What are they?
Well, they’re there for people living with any terminal illness, and their families. They offer expert care, guidance and support to help them get the most from the time they have left.

They mean a lot to me.
And very soon they are going to mean a lot to my family.
A very close member of my family is, as I have said a few times before, suffering from cancer. It’s incurable.

I would ask that any who read this, please do what they can to support the Marie Curie foundation, and help those that need it, as my family and I certainly will soon

Enjoy this

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Quote of the Day
“A Single man tear”

21

On wednesday I celebrated my 21st birthday and seeing as I’m only going to be 21 once in my lifetime I was glad it was an occasion to remember. I celebrated by seeing the “Theory of Everything” with my best friend from back home and was blown away by how beautiful yet harrowing it was at times (I cried a total of 3 times during the screening we went to). It’s based on the memoirs of Stephen Hawking’s ex wife Jane and is centred around their life together with snippets of his efforts to find ‘a theory of everything (his still on going research into the beginnings of the universe – hence the title). It definitely deserves its Oscar nominations (for best male and best female lead amongst others) and I highly recommend it.

After seeing the film I went out for a curry at night with her, my immediate and extended family, family friends and my sister’s friends. I had a wonderful time and got some really good presents and lots of money 😀 I also went out on Friday night with my aunty to a place in Manchester called “Home Sweet Home” which sells american comfort food and it’s own in house cakes and milkshakes

The cake I had at home sweet home
The cake I had at home sweet home
The main course I had at home sweet home. Fried buttermilk chicken with sweet potato fries, BBQ sauce and apple coleslaw
The main course I had at home sweet home. Fried buttermilk chicken with sweet potato fries, BBQ sauce and apple coleslaw

On an end note, whilst it is back to reality for me this coming week (lectures resume for me on monday) I am continuing my birthday celebrations with my uni friends when I’m back overall my 21st birthday has been one of the best birthday’s I’ve had in a long time

Incase anyone was wondering, yes there were photos taken on wednesday and some of these are below 🙂

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Faye’s Blog – Trying to be a more active Film Student

So recently I have been a bit of a rubbish film student. I haven’t seen barely any new films that have recently been out in the cinema! Mainly because the cinema is so expensive these days. But luckily my boyfriends friend works at the Odeon back home and whenever my boyfriend helps him out with some of his uni work he gives him a couple of free tickets which is really awesome! So me and my boyfriend went to see Looper last week. And I loved it, I thought that it was such a fantastic film! I feel bad that I haven’t been to see more films now though because I have a feeling I have missed out on a lot recently! Especially when everyone on my course is discussing a lot of the new films.

I am also going to be filming my brother’s band when they are in the recording studio in a couple of weeks time. We are hoping to film one or two music videos for a couple of their original songs! So that should be fun, I’m really looking forward to it. Going to try and get some photo’s of them as well 🙂

Faye’s Blog – Home

Yesterday I travelled back to Blackpool from Ormskirk so that I can see my family etc. I went to go and visit my nanna and her new puppy! It’s a Chihuahua crossed with a Yorkie, she’s called Sally and is so cute s although she is a bit of a bully to other dogs! Here’s a picture!

Tonight I am going to watch my little brother’s band play a support slot, so tonight should be really good. I haven’t watched them in while either so I’m excited.

Whilst being back I am still trying to keep up with some work at I have to do. For my Text to Screen module we have to read a novel a week. Since starting back I’ve read Call of Cthulu and Flowers for Algernon (I loved Flowers for Algernon, I cried my eyes out!) and this week I have been reading Big Fish which I have really been enjoying so far. So I’m trying to keep on top of that so I have read it in time for my lecture. It’s been a big shock to everyone how much the workload has increased for our third year. But I’m managing it so far I think.

Also in relation to my last post, about the PGCE, I’ve found out a little more information about how I apply, which is through the college and not through UCAS as I originally thought. I will also have to do 150 hours in a work placement (I knew about the placement just wasn’t sure about how much I had to do) as well as the course will be on Fridays from September. So I’m really excited about it now. There’s an open evening on the 7th November. Luckily that is in my reading week/independent study week, so I should be able to go to it.

I’m finally happy that I am starting to organise my future a lot more!!