As you can imagine, being a full time student can be stressful. As part of my volunteering work (which, can you believe it, I’ve been doing for two Terms now and I begin my third after Easter), I attended a session in which we discussed problems people face in life, and one of them was Anger. Now that it is the Easter holidays, I am no longer surrounded by many others and the peace and quiet is increased for a while (it’s not totally gone – right now as I write there’s a loud security alarm going off outside :/ ). Stress clouds the mind, and not thinking strait means you’re on a jagged road, if I was to be super philosophical. Here I reflect on “Uni Stress” and how to possibly deal with it.
First of all, aggression is not the answer. Neither is letting it push you over. The best way to deal with Stress is assertiveness (easier said than done). There have been times when I have witnessed aggression, and even got mistaken for being aggressive, and literally nothing got sorted. I have found that approaching a situation with a polite yet strait forward manner usually works – ie. don’t bang on someone’s door hard whether you’re angry or not, as then you probably won’t get an answer. It also helps to try to turn negatives into a positive, as I notice that’s what my lecturers do. To me, hesitation is the enemy – the more I put off dealing with something via talking about it, the worse I feel before sorting it out, so for the future I will not treat the situations as completely bad because there is light at the end of the tunnel. There are alternatives to dealing with stress if attempts to communicate with the person “crossing the line” (so to speak) has to be held off for a while, such as looking through awards you have won etc. – I don’t mean this as some kind of vanity activity thing, but rather a way of surrounding yourself with things / people that make you feel happier, or at least help you see the negativity as relative positivity. Surprisingly, anger, or more specifically adrenaline, can be good sometimes. Not only is it nice to feel the heat rush through the veins if it hasn’t done for a while, but it also helps as a defence. Ie. if someone you loved was under threat, then the anger (and I seriously mean non violent anger) can help you protect that person.
So there’s my perspective on Uni Stress, and even though your Uni surroundings are generally good, it is almost inevitable that “those” days will occur. On the bright side, Stress is temporary when you deal with it, of course. I know it can be tricky talking to someone about the line they crossed, and also being talked to about crossing someone else’s line, but a great skill to have in whatever situation is Communication. Obviously try to not cross lines in the first place, but I find the Uni Stress i have gained comes from mistakes, and those mistakes I have learned from.
Note: I know this is quite a heavy blog post, so here’s a happy Japanese pop / rap song about studying! ↓↓↓