At some point in our lives, we’ve all felt lonely. Whether that’s a short period of time, or something more permanent, loneliness is something that affects everyone from time to time, even at university.
University is said to be the happiest time of your life. But what do you do when you suddenly start to feel lonely, sad, or lost? What do you do when you’re in a sea of people who are thriving and you feel like you’re the only one drowning? The answer is: breathe, and understand you are not alone.
Loneliness affects many people, regardless of gender or age, in fact, recent research found that “almost 10% of people aged 16 to 24 were “always or often” lonely.” I myself have experienced loneliness at university, so I understand the struggle you may be going through right now. Which is why I’m writing this post in the hopes of helping you if you are currently feeling lonely in anyway shape or form.
Societies are a great way to meet like-minded people. Edge Hill has a large variety of different societies to join from movie based societies, to video games, to sports, to health and even faith-based societies. There is a society for everyone, and if you can’t find one you can always set one up! Societies are a great way to meet people as you all have at least one thing in common, and can bond over group activities and discussions. You can check out the different societies available to join by clicking here.
If you feel like living in student halls is a big contributor to your feelings, you can always talk with you SA (Student Assistant). Every on-campus accommodation has an SA who are always ready to help with any feeling of homesickness or loneliness you may have. SA’s can hold meetings and schedule hall meet up to help you get to know the people you are living with. Living away from home for the first time can be daunting, but your SA will always be more than happy to make you a cup of tea and talk through your feelings with you, in the comfort of your own halls.
You shouldn’t have to deal with these feelings alone, there are so many people out there who can help you. The Wellbeing Team on campus can work with you to resolve any issue, problem, or concern you have. Whether it’s to do with loneliness, anxiety or just feeling lost, the team are more than happy to help, and can be contacted via email and phone, or during office times as a drop in service.
Located next to the uni, on Ruff Lane is Milton House. Milton House offers counselling for anyone who needs it. Talking to someone who is trained in mental health, in a safe place, can be very beneficial. The service is offered free of charge whether you are a full-time or part-time student, and is completely confidential. For more information on this, feel free to contact the wellbeing team above.
If you feel like face-to-face contact is too overwhelming there are loads of organisations and helplines ready to help you. Some of which I have linked below:
Mind – offers thousands of callers confidential help on a range of issues, including mental health issues.
Contact Number: 0300 123 3393
Website: mind.org.uk, How to cope with loneliness
British Red Cross – Connecting Communities – Offers advice and support.
Contact Number: 0300 456 1155 (Mon to Fri, 9.30-5)
The Samaritans – Whatever you’re going through, ready to chat 24 hours a day.
Contact Number: 116 123
Campaign Against Living Miserably – works to prevent male suicide and offers support services for any man who is struggling or in crisis.
Contact Number: 0800 58 58 58
Girlfriend Social – Girlfriend Social is a website that connects women with new female friendships.
Papyrus – Support for those dealing with suicide, depression or emotional distress – particularly teenagers and young adults.
Contact Number: 0800 068 41 41
Website: papyrus-uk.org, I’m worried about someone
Students Against Depression – is a website offering advice, information, guidance and resources to those affected by low mood, depression and suicidal thinking.
Website: http://studentsagainstdepression.org/get-support/, Suicide and self-harm
Getting the help you need is the bravest thing you can do. Even when you feel like you’re at your lowest and nobody cares, just know that there is always someone there who wants to help you. You are never alone.Thank you for reading this, I honestly hope you found this post useful.
Until next time!
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